Life may end , but love doesn’t

Did anyone watch the detective series RIVER on BBC last year ?

Starring Stellan Skarsgard and Nicola Walker, it had various plots in it, but the key one for me was the love that Inspector John River had for Sergeant Jackie Stevenson (“Stevie”).

Unfortunately, Stevie had been killed, but an emotionally fragile John River often ‘saw’ her. She would sometimes try to help him by telling him to lighten up, maybe even go dancing. He began to realise that if he ever solved her murder, he risked losing ‘seeing’ her forever.

Now, I loved the series. I like detective stories but the whole thing struck a note with me, because I recently lost my wonderful wife of 40 years to cancer. I can totally understand what he is going through.

The series is brought to a conclusion in the attached clip. It’s beautifully done. Please give it a play, it’s terrific. As the famous quote says : ” Life may end , but love doesn’t “

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Take care of yourselves and each other



Be the legend you are meant to be

Hi everyone, i hope this finds you well.

Just to say that my name is Steve and i recently lost Sue, my wonderful wife of 40 years to cancer. Therefore, my blogs are not always happy go lucky cups of glee.

But i do try to stay upbeat if i can. i kinda grasp at any straw if it keeps me going.

Today i sat through a My Little Pony film with my lil princess, my granddaughter. As a 60+ year old man, it wasn’t the greatest film that i’ve ever seen, but this song made me think.

To me, my Sue was, and is, a legend. What i mean by that is this : she did her own thing. Sue didn’t follow other people, or the ways of the world. Do you know what i mean?

Nowadays, comedians don’t rely on being funny. If they are losing their audience, they just throw in a few swear words, a few crude gestures, and hey, they’re back on track.

Songwriters used to talk of love, smiles and togetherness. Now, it’s as many one night stands as possible, (often caused by the pressure of peers, or simply the modern world), or perhaps, a derogatory word here, a disrespectful remark there. Am I making sense?

This simple song says :   ““Be a hero, Be yourself, Be the legend you are MEANT to be””

In other words,

listen to your heart, be true to yourself, be the person that you are supposed to be.

Then you can look at yourself in the mirror and smile, and sleep soundly and well at night.

OK, nuff said, i hope this means something to someone out there, it speaks to me.

Take care of yourselves and each other,


Love is stronger than hate – it has to be

Hi everyone, I hope this finds you all well.

If this is your first time here, I’d better say that my name is Steve, and I recently lost Sue, my wonderful wife of 40 years, to cancer. So, yes, I am old, also heartbroken, devastated and lost. We were  everything to each other. We fell in love as teenagers, and grew closer and more together every day. Therefore this is not always a happy-go-lucky blog.

Anyway, back to it. Yesterday, was a bad day for me. I try to keep busy as much as possible, in an effort to distract myself from the emptiness and pain that I constantly feel.

But yesterday, it seemed that everything I ate, drank, watched, smelt, heard – everything, reminded me of Sue, and the fact that she isn’t here.

This pain eventually turned to frustration and anger. I was angry at all the TV channels, every radio station, absolutely everything and everyone. It was not good.

But then I looked at one of the many photos of Sue that I have all over the house. Oh, man, how I love her, adore her. One look at her smile lightens my day, brightens my life.

And soon, I was smiling.My love for Sue was, and is, stronger than my hate for anything.

And as I continued to look around the room, it was just as if a warm light began to glow, in me and all around me. I began to smile.

LOVE is stronger than hate. LOVE IS STRONGER than hate !

Check out these words : and think about their origin :












their origin      :       LOVE  !!

I know that this is not new, clever, or earth-shattering, but it helps me, and if it helps anyone out there, right here, right now, then it was worthwhile posting this blog.

Finally, when I was a lot younger, someone told me that it takes three times as many muscles to frown than it does to smile. It may or may not be true, but just in case, why waste energy? Besides, a smile is UPWARDS, and a frown is DOWNWARDS. Choose wisely.

As always, take care of yourselves and each other

Thank you so much for reading, please feel free to leave any comments